My photographer showed up 2 hours late (hung over, I might add), the limo stood me up, the coordinator was missing in action, my father was never enlightened where to walk me
( since we didn't get a dress rehearsal) so we unknowingly came in the back and didn't walk down the isle, my sister had to toss her heels during the ceremony and sprint to the bridal suite to grab the rings that were forgotten, the reception menu was pork chops and applesauce in place of the highly anticipated gourmet beef tri-tip we had chosen. The coordinator arranged the wrong wedding for the wrong day. I clearly remember sitting at the head table at my reception in tears with a lost appetite and a headache telling my husband how I couldn't wait for it all to just be over. It hurts just as much to write about the memories 8 years later as it hurt to live it on what was supposed to be the best day of my life. All the memories I have of that day are bold reminders of the incredible stress, disappointment and unfortunate circumstances that unfolded before our eyes.
Yes, the coordinator was fired and yes, I did get a refund. But...no amount of money can compensate. I still get that gut wrenching feeling in my stomach when I think about it. The sacred vows that I had eagerly waited years to exchange with my husband were just thrown into the tornado of the day. The dreamy feeling of anticipation of seeing my groom for the first time was taken from me as I was being rushed through chaotic city traffic in a random vehicle to the venue. The first dance in his arms is a blur as all I can remember is trying to decompress and wrap my head around my dream day turned nightmare.
Yep, this my wedding story and the foundational reason behind my purpose of opening up LoveTrek.
Luckily it's 2020, and elopements aren't what they used to be. Your grandma's definition no longer applies. I can confidently say the decision to elope doesn't have to be because of an undercover pregnancy or a vindictive scheme of some kind. It can simply be because you don't want to deal with the circus of a traditional wedding and you want an intimate experience allowing you to take in each moment and resonate on its importance. Adventurous elopements allow people to focus on what's most meaningful to them, allowing nature to provide the ultimate peaceful environment. Intimate weddings also fall under the elopement umbrella and grandma could still get to witness little Johnny tie the knot! You can have the best of both worlds if you want to include some family.
I can only imagine having had the opportunity to take some deep breaths of fresh air to calm my nerves. Handwriting our vows in the soft morning light on the porch of a private cottage nestled in the foggy tree filled forest. An intimate ceremony solely focused on nothing but each other. Ahh, what I would give to go back and do things differently. Had I only known there was another way.
You deserve everything you've ever dreamed of when it comes to your wedding, and your dream can be different from the norm. Eloping may or may not be for you but it's undoubtedly worth your time to consider all your options when it comes to the biggest day of your lives. Take it from me.